At times in life, we may not reap what we sown, and, it’s normal that things would fall out of our expectations, the important thing is, how we learn to deal with it.
Back then, my eldest son was over 220 pounds, he thought that he gets to escape the service: but, the Ministry of Defense had loosened their rules, and now, those adult males who are overweight, too thin, too tall must ALL enlist.
Even though my son was stunned, but he could only accept this. After he was assigned to his base, because he was physically “apparent”, he’d gotten picked on a lot by the more experienced servicemen, he’d had to handle a great deal of work during the daytime, and at night, he was assigned to the midnight shifts of standing guard, he could only squeeze in three, four hours of sleep a day, he’d lost a total of over sixty-six pounds. After this, he didn’t get beaten down, instead, it’d initiated his fighting response, worked even harder, and gotten his platoon leader, his row leader’s trust and care, and that, is when the older servicemen stopped picking on him.
Can’t imagine, that this experimental draft plan, because it didn’t match up to the expected results, two years later, it was tossed out, and so, the year before my son enlisted, the overweight didn’t have to serve, and the year after him, the overweight also didn’t have to serve, only him, he turned into a “lab rat” during those two years. And gladly, my son had a positive attitude about it, to deal with his two-year service term, not only did he NOT get beaten, he’d gotten polished, after this, his life became wide open.
Before this, the hands of fate also dealt us a scary hand. When my husband went for his routine health exams, he was told that he had cancer in his alveoli, and that he must return to the hospital for check-up immediately. Back then, it was no more than a month and a half until my son’s high school entrance exams, in order to NOT mess up my son’s mind, my husband was insistent, on NOT getting that check up, and told me not to tell it to my son, said that after he’d taken his test, then, he’ll be admitted to the hospitals.
During that month and a half, we were both having it hard, on the one hand, we were worrying about that it might delay my husband’s treatment, on the other, we were worried, how are we going to get through it all. I was angered at how stubborn my husband was, on NOT getting his health exams, and on the other, I feared, that if we told our son, he might not be able to handle it, and bombed on his examinations, I didn’t know which way to go, it was all too painful.
I’d cried secretly every single day, and researched information on alveoli cancer, and, when I thought about what’s in store for my husband, my heart wrenched, and I’d worried that if he doesn’t get through this, what will we do? And, the icy cold feeling came from my feet, all the way, into my heart, even though, it was, the DEAD of summer, but I feel like I’m frozen stiff, I can only hold down the pains in my heart, suppress my own fears, and planned out my life, in that small notebook, without the male head of the household………
Finally, my son’s major entrance exams are over, the very next day, I’d accompanied my husband to the hospitals, and he got another X-ray done on him. The doctor squinted, told us, “there’s NO shadow, you’re okay”. Now, that, would be W-E-I-R-D! I’d asked the doctor to show me the films from the last time, then, it turns out, that the X-ray wasn’t even my husband’s! And the man whose film was mistaken as my husband’s, had been delayed in his treatment, and we were all very worried over him.
These two events gave me a HUGE wakeup call: everything, you MUST accept, from the heavens, you can’t force it, whichever way it’d worked, we must face it with bravery, and step-by-step.
The middle school students who graduated this year, because the government waived the examinations, and because the rules had been altered, there are a TON of kids who did very well on exams, but had gotten into not-so-good schools, and, those who didn’t fill out their cards right wouldn’t even have a school to go to, and, a LOT of parents are complaining about it, but, what’s done is done, and, even IF the government tried to change the rules, it wouldn’t come into effect immediately. All of these “lab rats” of reforms in education could only force themselves to accept. But, getting angry, sad, or blaming someone doesn’t help the situation, being positive, optimistic, and you just might find another better way.
And so, the woman gave two examples from her own life, and, when there’s something bad that happened, most people would immediately start pointing fingers at each other, because that, was how they’d done it for a long time, and, to change this “habit”, it’s going to take time, so, STOP pointing fingers, stop blaming the government, the whatever, for situations that involves you, that you have NO control over, just ACCEPT it, and, make the best of it!