Getting along well with the in-laws here, translated…
Awhile ago, I went out with a colleague to lunch, and because we were both married for about two years, and our kids’ ages are similar, we’d often conversed about getting along with our separate spouses, or trade secrets of how we’d educated our children.
My colleague told me, that after she gave birth, after the month of rest at the care center, she’d returned home, her mother-in-law would go to the marketplaces to get fresh fish, and made it into a soup for her, and delivered the soup from her house which was over ten kilometers away, and she would even buy her lunch, and, after she’d bathed her son, then, she’d headed home, and this way of interactions lasted for several months. She, as a first time mom, didn’t know how to do a lot of things, had NO clue of how to care for her newborn, and her mother-in-law, in order to help reduce her anxiety, took care of everything in the household, so she could get rested up, and focus on breastfeeding her child, she is so glad, that she has a wonderful mother-in-law.
I too, have a good mother-in-law, after I’d given birth, the first few months I’d take care of my baby, I’d gotten trapped by taking care of my newborn, and household work, and became strained, and so, my husband suggested that we should head abroad for a few days, to get relaxed for a bit.
And, after my mother-in-law learned of my husband’s plan, she believed, that taking a not-yet-a-year-old baby abroad, as he’d become older, he’d have NO recollection of the trip, that we should just leave him with her, and just the two of us, go on this vacation alone, that way, we’d get to truly relax and enjoy ourselves.
Even though we’d only gone away for a few short days, my mother-in-law still started buying up infant materials, cribs, bottles, play beds, play mats, toys, along with everything else that a baby needs, it’d set our minds at ease so we could truly enjoy our vacation, and so, my husband and I got to enjoy this hard-to-come by trip for two.
It’s my luck, to have such an understanding and wonderful mother-in-law. I think, that the mothers-in-law in this new era, maybe because they’d gone through the hardships of balancing out work and family too, and understood the hardships of balancing their roles of a wife, a mother, and a daughter-in-law, and so, when they’d become mothers-in-law, they have this extra sense of empathy toward their own daughters-in-law.
As the daughters-in-law, other than showing them the thanks, we must also hope, that when we’d become mothers-in-law ourselves, we can pass this kindness down as well.
And so, this, is still the cycle of kindness, rolling, because the mother-in-law was kind to her daughter-in-law, and NOT all mothers-in-law are like that, but this woman was lucky enough to have such an understanding mother-in-law, and it’s her luck, and so, she is more than grateful for her mother-in-law’s kindness.