Get to the point already, “sweetheart”!!! This can cause troubles, if you don’t realize your own tendencies, and make the changes accordingly, translated…
Don’tknow when it’d started, happening, as my husband heard me talk, he would, startyawning like crazy, and, he may not have, wanted me to rant to him on the minisculematters of life, at most, he’d, asked me to get to the point, so his life canbe, saved.
This situation actually made me feel hurt a lot, because in my mind, if my husband takes me seriously, shouldn’t he be at attention as I tell him things, and, it’d be better, if he can ask me a question or two regarding what I was telling him too!
And, I started looking at myself, to see, if I was truly that boring as I’d started speaking, and, I’d, asked several of my best friend. And, maybe because they didn’t want to hurt me, or because, we’re, the same kind, all of my friends all told me, “no, it’s quite interesting, holding conversations with you, time seemed to fly by so quickly!”, it’d, boosted my level of self-confidence.
Then,where, is the problem? Is it because thetopics of interest are different for men and women? Or, because of my husband’s type A personality,that he couldn’t even, hold still, as someone tells him something? Or maybe, I’d become, too excessive as I’dtalked to him?
And so, as he’d, started yawning again, I’d, worked up the courage and asked him why he was doing it. And, he’d, used “my methods” of telling him things, and, told me back what I’d, just told him, and, as he was halfway done, I’d, asked him, “So, what happened then?”, and he said, “So, you see, don’t you want to get to the end quickly too?”
Wow,so that’s it then. But, he was, a bit exaggerated,in taking up my persona. Although, it’show I’d described things, in the lacking of the POINT that’s, made him dozedoff, but, I’d told him, maybe, this can cause us to stop talking to one anotheraltogether, because as one of us gets all worked up, wanting to sharesomething, the other person start yawning, and, if this happens many more times,who would want to, keep on talking? Andyet, my husband got angered, said that I’d, mistakenly accused him, because itwasn’t that he didn’t want to hear me talk, he just wanted me to get to the pointsooner.
to finally, this…
Fine, at least, we’d, faced this problem in communications actively, and I know, where the problem rests. Although, I still have NO clue how I will, resolve the matter, but at least, if we can, both work on it, then, we might be able to keep on smiling at one another, as we tell each other of the things in our lives, as we grow older together.
And so, this, is this woman’s realizing her tendencies, but she’s still, not quite yet motivated to change herways, but she’d come to understand, that this may cause a sort of a riftbetween her and her husband, and hopefully, knowing this, she can, change hermannerisms of speaking, to improve the communication between her and her husband.