The re-adjustment after one’s spouse passed away, translated…
After my mom died, I’d often see my dad, sitting, in front of the television, staring, into space.
Back when my mom was still alive, even though they’d rarely exchanged words, but, their gazes would always drift to what one another is doing around in the house, and they’d nagged one another, to show care and concern.
After my mother passed on, it’s as if my father had lost his focus in life completely, would often sit and stared into space on his own bed with the television turned on, and, after sitting there, not moving for a long time, tears would start to flow from his eyes.
After we’d gotten through my mother’s funeral, I’d returned back to my busy working schedules, one time, on a business trip abroad, I’d gotten a thought, bought my father an I-Pad. Before the flight took off, I’d quickly made an order for one at the duty-free shops, and, after I’d returned home, I’d quickly, delivered it to my father.
Every time my younger sister and I were using our laptops in the living room, my father would always circled around us, asking us, how to play the films, and how is it that we’re able to view our relatives’ photos? After we’d explained, my father was seemingly still in the clouds, as he’d nodded, the next day, he’d asked the same questions all over again. I didn’t know, IF he’d really actually forgotten what I’d told him the day before, or was he just trying to strike up a conversation. And so, if he’s interested in computer, then, I’d given him one, so he could figure it out on his own.
My younger sister had downloaded some applications without being asked, my father loved playing Sudoku and chess to, even those photoshop programs of “beautifying photos”, it’d added the dilated pupils, the smoother skins, on my father’s self-taken photographs, making my father into a “hottie”, and the finished photograph, we’d all gotten a huge laugh over.
Later, my father became intrigued with online games. I’d often seen my father in his bedroom, with the volume of the television turned UP loud, and he was laying FLAT, on the bed, playing “Candy Crush”. Asked him why he’d turned up the volume on the television, he’d blushed and said, “I didn’t want you to know that I’m playing computer games.”, the way he’d looked when he’d gotten caught, it was exactly identical to the way we’d looked as children when we were caught, playing our Game Boys.
My father, after getting that I-Pad, he’d treated it like a treasure. Originally, my two younger sisters had nothing to say to him, but because of the online games, they’d started engaging in the talk of tactics.
My father would also surf the online photo albums too, and share with me, the funny footages he’d found. I couldn’t believe, that before signing my dear old dad up for the basics of I-Pad, he was already very capable in using it, by experimenting on his own.
Recently, I’d bought my father a small backpack, so he could take his bicycle out, and his I-Pad, to take photos of the scenes along the way, to take shots of his gatherings with friends and families. Sometimes, my father would even joke, that “it’s NOT at all bad, having this sort of a ‘companion’ at old age too!”
And so, the parent here merely needed something, to OCCUPY his mind, to get his thought off of the loss of his wife, and, the children came UP with a viable solution too, and, who SAYS that the older generations can’t learn?