The art, of communicating, with each other, to avoid an altercation, translated…
Back when we were younger, we’d, deemed ourselves brave, when we spoken aloud our feelings; then we’d, come to discover, that holding back what we actually want to say is, an act of “maturity”; and now, it becomes, “wisdom”, knowing what to say, when to say, and how to say.
My husband works across the striats, we are a little bit better than the star-crossed deity lovers, we get to meet up once a little bit more than a month. As my husband who’d not seen me for a while, when he saw me, he’d opened up, “How long has it been, since you stood on a scale? You………gained, a lot of weight!”
like this???
with everything becoming, a HUGE mess, picture found online
I’d continued the household chores, with the air around us, freezing solid, then, I’d, put what I was sorting through down, stead, “I think I’m, becoming, more and more mature, I’d learned, NOT to blurt out certain things that I want o say.”
My husband looked at me, confused.
I’d continued, “Did you not say that I’d, gained weight?”
He’d, nodded.
I’d told him, “I’d, stopped myself from telling you: ‘didn’t your hair get whiter, did you not become, balder, with more wrinkles, and that pot belly too? I’d held all of that, in.”
He’d become, stumped for a bit, “Haha………thanks, hon, for holding it all in, and not saying all of that to me!”
where do you think this is headed, huh??? Photo from online
That’s, the interesting about words, love? Or damage? Both, comes from the expressions. Perhaps, by burying those words we wanted to scream out at one another, and then, speaking them aloud, when the timing becomes better, there would be, a sweetened flower that bloomed, from them.
illustration from the papers online
And so, this, is the way you’d, learned to get along with one another, and this still didn’t come overnight, because, it takes, a VERY long time, to finally, get used to how each other worked, and, knowing what can make each other crack, which buttons you should, and/or shouldn’t push, in your loved ones, it’s something that takes, a lot of time to finally understand about one another.
JUST the Unwinding of Thoughts 