An unplanned pregnancy, but the family loved this youngest son, just as he should be, loved by them…translated…
My youngest came home from school, and as usual, he’d worked up that appetite, watched the videos, laughing hard, but, I’d detected that slight scent of, loss from him. Before bedtime, he’d pulled me to lie with him a bit, seeing how quiet he was, I’d asked him, “what’s wrong?”
He’d told, that at school, the teacher asked everyone if they have big brothers or sisters? He’d called out “yes”, then the teacher asked how old the older siblings of the classmates were? Fifth grade? Sixth? Middle School? High School? The hands dropped, in the end, the teacher ask, if there are older siblings in college?
“I’m the only one with my hand raised, I’d told everybody happily, that my older sister is a senior in university that my older brother is a sophomore!”, then, the teacher told him, so carelessly, “Then, you must be, an accidental child, an extra!”
Surely, as the gynecologist told me I was pregnant again, it’d felt like someone turned the lights off in the treatment room, the world fell dark all of a sudden. At the time, I was, glad that my two older children are older, that they’re at school all day, then, came another one, wanting to, lock me inside that cage, where I’d sat for a long, long time, waiting to, take, flight, and suddenly, I’d felt, upset.
And his instructor was correct, that my youngest WAS, an accident, in my original plans, there are only, FOUR in the family, from the space at home, the size of the car, to all other aspects of my life, I’d never, calculated this, extra child, a lot of things needed to get reset, I’d tossed away all of my two children’s baby things, and now, I will need to purchase them again, or, to get them back from someone I’d given them to, and although I’d been a mom twice already, and now, starting all over again, it’s, ten years later. I’d thought: could it be, that the fates didn’t think I was a good enough mother the first two times, that it’d, made me do it, again? Or, maybe, I was too excellent at being a mom, that fate rewards me, with another try?
the portrait of a complete, family…photo from online
Going out with a baby, I’d had to pack a whole lot of things, the family of five, are already, quite cramped up in the small compact, seated for four, the baby is hungry, diaper’s wet, too hot, too cold, there’s no rush hour, or everything else, my time started, going around full cycle, twenty-four seven. One day my husband told me, if the car’s too cramped up, maybe we should get a bigger, car? And, that was that last straw, “no!” I’d told him.
After I’d screamed out that “No!”, I was, deflated, my heart became, roomier than, that was when I’d taken a deeper look at my husband, and my three children, suddenly, I’d felt, that they’re all, too cute. The car’s too small, we can get a bigger one, but, is my body too tiny? Not enough to keep a baby in me? And, asking myself this question, it’d, suddenly, opened up my narrow mind: things will get reduced, but love, love will only, get more and more with time.
“Mom, so am I, really, an, extra?”, my youngest son beside me asked.
I’d patted his head, told him lightly, “Foolish child, we’d all been, waiting for you! Daddy, me, your siblings, waited so very long, to welcome you, into, our, family!”
“Really?”
“Of course!”
illustration from UDN.com
Then, my youngest started, grinning ear to ear, lifted his arms toward me for me to carry him in my arms, then, he’d fallen asleep, quietly and peacefully.
After I got out of his bedroom, I’d shared with the rest of my family about my youngest’s belief of him being an “extra”, and, as his older sister who was preparing for her TOIEC exam got to the word, “redundant”, my older son added, “extra”. And yet, I still preferred how my husband described my youngest, as a “bonus”.
So, this was not in your plans for yourself or your family, but, your youngest child still came, and you’d, loved him dearly, and that, is exactly what it takes, to raise a child up right. There ARE, no EXTRA children of the family, everything IS fate.